Look at the word responsibility-"response-ability"-the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.

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When parents see their children's problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. Parents become more willing, even excited, about deeply understanding and helping their children. . . . This paradigm is powerful in business as well.

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Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be a part of the solution, not the problem.

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There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles.

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Link yourself to your potential, not to your past.

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You don't see the world as it is, you see it according to who you are.

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Where you are headed is more important than how fast you are going. Rather than always focusing on what's urgent, learn to focus on what is really important.

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Live your life by a compass, not a clock.

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Be a light, not a judge, be a model not a critic. Little by little, your circle of influence will explode and you will avoid the emotional metastasizing cancers of complaining, criticizing, competing, comparing and cynicism, all which reflect victimization, all of which are the opposite of being proactive.

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To achieve goals you've never achieved before, you need to start doing things you've never done before.

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