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Contrary to what we may have been taught to think, unnecessary and unchosen suffering wounds us but need not scar us for life. It does mark us. What we allow the mark of our suffering to become is in our own hands. ― bell hooks
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Contrary
Suffering
Unchosen
When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment. ― bell hooks
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Relationships
Commitment
Maintain
Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape. ― Bell Hooks
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Knowing
Loving
Means
Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling. ― bell hooks
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Genuine
Emotional
Dreaming
All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm's way. ― Bell Hooks
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Women
Actuality
Healthy
If any female feels she need anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency. ― bell hooks
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Legitimate
Existence
Power
I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else's whim or to someone else's ignorance. ― bell hooks
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Somebody
Ignorance
Life
For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed? ― bell hooks
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Forgiveness
Accountable
Believe
But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape. ― Bell Hooks
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Community
Solitary
Loving
To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. True love does have the power to redeem but only if we are ready for redemption. Love saves us only if we want to be saved. ― bell hooks
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Return
Wanted
Redemption
Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust. ― bell hooks,
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Combination
Responsibility
Knowledge
Living simply makes loving simple. ― bell hooks
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Living
Loving
The practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control. ― Bell Hooks
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Practice
Risk
Control
No black woman writer in this culture can write "too much". Indeed, no woman writer can write "too much"...No woman has ever written enough ― bell hooks
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Woman
Indeed
Much
As all advocates of feminist politics know most people do not understand sexism or if they do they think it is not a problem. Masses of people think that feminism is always and only about women seeking to be equal to men. And a huge majority of these folks think feminism is anti-male. Their misunderstanding of feminist politics reflects the reality that most folks learn about feminism from patriarchal mass media. ― Bell Hooks
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Advocates
Understand
Misunderstanding
Individuals who want to believe that there is no fulfillment in love, that true love does not exist, cling to these assumptions because this despair is actually easier to face than the reality that love is a real fact of life but is absent from their lives. ― bell hooks
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Individuals
Assumptions
Fulfillment
Being oppressed means the absence of choices ― bell hooks
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Oppressed
Absence
I am passionate about everything in my life--first and foremost, passionate about ideas. And that's a dangerous person to be in this society, not just because I'm a woman, but because it's such a fundamentally anti-intellectual, anti-critical thinking society. --bell hooks ― bh
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Passionate
Dangerous
Woman
To love well is the task in all meaningful relationships, not just romantic bonds.― bell hooks,
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Relationships
Meaningful
The process begins with the individual woman’s acceptance that American women, without exception, are socialized to be racist, classist and sexist, in varying degrees, and that labeling ourselves feminists does not change the fact that we must consciously work to rid ourselves of the legacy of negative socialization. ― bell hooks
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Acceptance
Socialized
Consciously