Be a light, not a judge, be a model not a critic. Little by little, your circle of influence will explode and you will avoid the emotional metastasizing cancers of complaining, criticizing, competing, comparing and cynicism, all which reflect victimization, all of which are the opposite of being proactive.

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The challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves.

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We immediately become more effective when we decide to change ourselves rather than asking things to change for us.

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I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.

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There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles.

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Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.

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Look at the word responsibility-"response-ability"-the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.

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Little kindness and courtesies are so important. In relationships, the little things are the big things.

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The problems in life come when we're sowing one thing and expecting to reap something entirely different.

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To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. It means to know where you're going so that you better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction.

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