When parents see their children's problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. Parents become more willing, even excited, about deeply understanding and helping their children. . . . This paradigm is powerful in business as well.

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Where you are headed is more important than how fast you are going. Rather than always focusing on what's urgent, learn to focus on what is really important.

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Be a light, not a judge, be a model not a critic. Little by little, your circle of influence will explode and you will avoid the emotional metastasizing cancers of complaining, criticizing, competing, comparing and cynicism, all which reflect victimization, all of which are the opposite of being proactive.

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We immediately become more effective when we decide to change ourselves rather than asking things to change for us.

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You don't see the world as it is, you see it according to who you are.

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Link yourself to your potential, not to your past.

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The challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves.

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Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be a part of the solution, not the problem.

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See every problem as an opportunity to exercise creative energy.

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Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.

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