I think if I have one message, one thing before I die that most of the world would know, it would be that the event does not determine how to respond to the event. That is a purely personal matter. The way in which we respond will direct and influence the event more than the event itself.

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Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.

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I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.

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Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.

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Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.

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You have all played a significant part in my development of loving. As a result, my life has been rich and full, so I leave feeling very grateful.

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Many people are living in an emotional jail without realizing it.

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As a therapist, I am a companion. I try to help people tune into their own wisdom.

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I am me and I am okay.

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Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.

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